Anything that is "wrong" with you began as a survival mechanism in childhood.
Dr. Gabor Mate
We all have them, to some extent - parts of us, deeper down, that are cloaked with some version of the belief... "I am not worthy, acceptable, lovable" and/or that
"my self worth = my performance + certain other people's opinions."
These beliefs were taken on during times when there wasn't enough love and support needed to help us make sense of things, to help us through, and as a result, parts of us carry heavy burdens of belief, are bruised and broken.
To deal with the emotional pain caused by these beliefs and wounds, other parts of us try to distance it - from ourselves and others, in various ways. When the pain inevitably leaks through, parts with more extreme strategies take over to try manage it through rage, addictions, self-harm, and others ways...
All our parts are just trying to help us deal with emotional pain in the ways they know how.
There is hope. Through Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, our wounded parts can be healed, thereby releasing other parts from their need to manage, distance, and numb the emotional pain.
We all have them, to some extent - parts of us, deeper down, that are cloaked with some version of the belief... "I am not worthy, acceptable, lovable" and/or that
"my self worth = my performance + certain other people's opinions."
These beliefs were taken on during times when there wasn't enough love and support needed to help us make sense of things, to help us through, and as a result, parts of us carry heavy burdens of belief, are bruised and broken.
To deal with the emotional pain caused by these beliefs and wounds, other parts of us try to distance it - from ourselves and others, in various ways. When the pain inevitably leaks through, parts with more extreme strategies take over to try manage it through rage, addictions, self-harm, and others ways...
All our parts are just trying to help us deal with emotional pain in the ways they know how.
There is hope. Through Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, our wounded parts can be healed, thereby releasing other parts from their need to manage, distance, and numb the emotional pain.
Contact Information
I offer both face-to-face and online video counselling.
Please contact me for an initial free 15 minute phone conversation.
Face-to-face counselling at Boyle Street, Sutherland NSW Australia.
Email: russell@bruisedreeds.com.au
Phone: +61 (0)400 506 058